Recognise your warning signs, for example, sweaty palms, racing pulse, trembling, and so on. When you pick up on a warning signal, stop. Use "I" statements to express your angry feelings at the time of being angry.

Use words that help not hurt, for example, "I'm feeling angry because I need to take time out. I'd like to talk about this when I have calmed down."

Remember that the build-up of physical and emotional tension blocks our minds from thinking clearly, which prevents effective communication. Time out is used to calm ourselves down when we feel that our anger may be used destructively. Before you take time out agree with your partner a time when you will continue the discussion.